Brilliant Adaptation

What if your so-called “career derailers” weren’t flaws at all — but brilliant adaptations to difficult childhood experiences?

I recently heard leadership expert Amy Elizabeth Fox reframe the idea of career derailers as intelligent psychological strategies we developed in response to childhood traumas — traumas of commission or omission. This idea stopped me in my tracks.

What if, instead of judging or trying to “fix” these parts of ourselves, we honored the wisdom they carry? That shift alone can unlock new levels of growth.

This has been true in my own life. As I’ve done this inner work — and supported others in doing the same — I’ve noticed some profound changes:

 - Less criticism, more curiosity

 - Less reactivity, more courage

 - Less energy spent avoiding loss, more energy invested in creating impact

This morning, I read a powerful piece by James Flaherty - my former New Ventures West teacher. Titled “What Is Mine to Do?”, the piece reminds me that many of our adult patterns were written by a child simply trying to survive in a world where s/he had little or no control. 

That "roadmap" may have kept us safe as children; it’s not always the one we need to thrive as adults.

Are you curious about the map you’re following — and whether it fits the terrain of your life today?

Let’s talk. Comment below or DM me if you're ready to explore.

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