Is Being "Fearless" Realistic?

We often hear that success requires conquering fear. In my experience - as a coach, a parent, and a human, I’ve discovered a different truth: 

Fear isn’t the enemy. Instead, it often points us to what matters most. Fear shows up when:

 - I care about my team’s results.

 - I want my message to land with an audience.

 - I hope to strengthen a relationship - even when I’m unsure what the other person wants.

Instead of pushing fear away, I’ve learned to listen to it. When I treat fear as a signal (not a stop sign), I make better decisions. I show up more prepared, more grounded, and more real. 

Here’s a simple shift I use: Begin with desire; make it greater than the fear. In other words, feel the fear and do it anyway!

Ask yourself: What do I want? Let that lead. Let fear ride along - but not take the wheel.

This week, for example, I’m preparing a pitch to a client. I want the opportunity—it aligns with my strengths and vision. 

And yes, the fear is real: What if they push back? Or say no? Or, worse, say yes and regret it?

I remind myself that I care. That’s where the fear comes from. That’s also where the power lies.

If fear is keeping you stuck, maybe it’s trying to show you something important. 

What’s one desire you want to follow - even if fear is nipping at its heels? 

I’d love to read your thoughts. And if you’re ready for a conversation, let’s connect.

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